Saturday, 29 August 2009

Agoraphobia lessening?

It's been a tough couple of months.

Marie has mostly been very anxious or depressed or sick or any combination of those three. I have been primary carer to our two children during the school holidays, while coping with the day-to-day running of my business at a peak trading time, dealing with the negotiations and logistics in the acquisition of another business and trying to solve complicated legal issues around the purchase of a small, neglected property. As if all that wasn't enough, we hosted two pairs of Austrian students attending an English language summer school.

I'm exhausted.

But there were lots of good times too. Happy family times. Lots of love from my little children and amazing support from my three older girls. Incredible assistance from my staff. I'm a lucky man.


.......................just this week...

...Marie started to get out and about again, driving her car, walking short distances...

The worst is over, school starts again next week, Marie's rising from depression and we're all looking forward to better times.

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We had pretty good weather this summer, so we spent as much time outdoors as I could manage. Here we were sharing an al fresco tea with the first pair of Austrian students. Soon afterwards, they were playing football - quite well! - with Joseph, Orla and me. Marie took the photo.

Even wet days didn't dampen our enthusiasm for the outdoor life - as long as it was warm. We even had a family party and barbeque on a showery afternoon. It was a brilliant afternoon for all!

We visited Lilstock Beach Hut several times. There's a blog about it at...
where one can learn more about this.
I took the Austrian students here and they were fascinated!

Beautiful, warm, sunny evenings encourage one to stay at the beach until sunset. The Austrian students loved it!

Orla and her niece Elisha have birthdays in July only 13 days apart. It was logical, since Jenna, her husband and Elisha were on a very rare (and very enjoyable) visit to us in July, to have a combined birthday party. It proved to be a good decision!


Henry North London said...

If she gets blue over the winter check her Vitamin D levels

the blood test to ask for is

25hydroxyvitamin D

you need optimal levels of 65-90 ng/ml

ladythinker said...

Robert - so glad I popped back to check - not surprising to hear why you not been blogging lately. What a summer you've had - glad you had some happy events too - but lots of hard work.

Hope Marie continues to improve.

Take care.

Casdok said...

YOu have been busy! But lovely to see you enjoying some happy family times. Really good news about Marie :)

ladythinker said...

Henry is so right - I think we all need our vit D levels checked - what a summer! We're now known as the WET Country - so many grey wet days. Had 2 rare days sunshine this week and I was out there baring as much skin as possible to soak up the rays.

Bsquared86 said...

I'm glad to see that the worst is over! You are so strong!

rosiero said...

No wonder you have not had time to blog. You must be exhausted. I wondered where you had got to, but guessed that with the summer holidays, you were busy. Sorry Marie has been feeling depressed. Hope she feels better soon.

Rachael said...

Good to see you back Robert, i was wondering why you hadn't posted in such a long time but you've obviously been so busy. I hope things get better now, like you said the worst is over.

Take care

diver said...

Hi Robert, glad to hear your high tempo summer is throttling back and that Marie is on the move again. You were powering for awhile there Marie, what do you reckon happened to check your momentum?

That was fascinating flotsam art and some nice sunset pics on the Lilstock blog you linked, too. Thanx.

Good to see you back online Robert :)

alice said...

youve been mighty busy. im sure marie will pick up after a while. its good to see that you are both being social with people, so although missing out on doing things, your keeping up with being around people. x

Anonymous said...

Hi Robert,

Good to see you back again. What a busy old summer you've had but it sounds like you made the most of it. I'm glad you caught some of the good weather which was severely lacking up this end of the island.

Hopefully things will be less frantic for you now.

All the best


Robert said...

HNL - Thanks for the tip! I'll keep an eye on that.

Ladythinker - Thanks for popping by! In this little part of the west country, we've had pretty good weather with mostly bright days and quite a lot of sunshine.

Casdok - thanks for the comment. I'll nip over and see how you're grtting on soon.

Robert said...

BS86 - Thanks for the compliment! Always welcome :) However, I don't believe that I'm any stronger than average - I just do what I have to do.

Robert said...

rosiero, Rachel, alice & Nechtan - I've missed all you guys, so it's really pleasing to read your comments :) Things haven't quite settled down here yet, so I'm still busy...but at least I've got a little time to see what mischief you've got up to in the past few weeks!

Robert said...

diver - many thanks for the kind comment.

Lilstock is only a few miles away from me and the Lilstock project is the sort of thing I wished I'd thought of! The beautiful sunsets are quite common here, but still give me a thrill. On showery summer days, looking east, we often get spectacular rainbows - frequently double rainbows and occasionally triple ones! I really like living in this part of the world.

Marie lost the incentive to work at lessening her anxiety. This was at least partly due to her carelessness in taking her medication on a regular basis. It may also have been the main contributor to a period of depression which she had to endure. She still believes that the Linden method is the way (for her) to go, and will tell anyone that asks that it is only her own inertia which is holding her back.

Kit Courteney said...

So lovely to see you back.

Wonderful pictures (as ever!) and great news about Marie :0)

Robert said...

Thanks for that, KC :)

Anonymous said...

I'm sorry to hear that you and Marie have had a tough time lately, but glad it's coming to an end! One thing with SSRIs (the type of med that I believe Marie is on, and I am!) - they are like the pill - you need to take them every day for them to work properly! Stopping them suddenly or missing a few days can lead to very very nasty withdrawal. (From personal experience).

Jax (long time reader, very infrequent commenter) :)

Robert said...

Jax - Nice to hear from you! You're right - Marie is an SSRis. And she has learned, as you have, at significant cost, that she has to take them every day!